April and I’ve brought out the fur #saskatchewan #ypa #wintergetgone #springinpa #vintage #valuevillagefinds
Waiting with my new friend before my first sweat. #recovery #chihuahua #spirituality #fellowship #trynewthings #sweat #healing
Today’s lesson #Alessonaday #crossfit #barbara #wod #teenburger #aandw #lessonlearned #gross #neveragain
"Equality for women is progress for all" Happy International Women’s Day to all the inspiring women in my life and the men that recognize their strength #internationalwomensday #feminism #equality #progress #womensissues
"You can’t go to work if I’m sleeping on your jacket and boots! Ha!" #daschund #wiener #girlsbestfriend #love #dontleaveme #sorels #winter
As an alcoholic, a woman, and an alcoholic woman who repeatedly put herself in dangerous situations with men (and women) this is something that I feel very strongly about.
Sure. It might be easier to point the finger and blame it all on the booze or drugs. It would be easier than having to go through the court system. I never spoke up when I was assaulted for this reason. I PUT myself in that situation, so I didn’t bother. I knew I had a major problem with alcohol and I didn’t need a court to tell me that it could have been prevented. I was always drunk. I’m an alcoholic. And this event ended up being the catalyst for a huge change in my life- sobriety.
I’ve listened a lot of women in the program, and a sponsee in particular, and we all have a lot of the same stories. I’ve come to realize that this is the norm for a lot of women who are addicted. We put ourselves in the wrong situations, yes, but taking advantage of a drunk or high woman is no different than taking advantage of a child. They are just as vulnerable and just as helpless.
Unfortunately, the justice system isn’t there yet, not even in Canada. The finger is still pointed at women and men who were intoxicated during their abuse. Like it was somehow their fault. Our fault. Until we can hold rapists accountable instead of their victims, we won’t break the cycle.
Alcohol is not consent. Drugs are not consent. Not being able to say “no” is not consent. And giving in because it’s easier than saying “no” is not consent either. Alcohol doesn’t cause rape, rapists cause rape.
Ha this cracked me up when a friend shared this with me today! Story of my life… One is too many and 1000 is never enough #alcoholicsanonymous #AA #recovery #friendsofbill